So i recently started dating my best friend of 10 years. we are really close. so close that i am the first person he told about his herpes diagnosis 4 year ago.
About a month ago we kissed one night,after drinking of course, and it was like , damn, why didn't we do this sooner? Seriously best kiss ever. Turned into the best sex ever! We are being careful, very.
But I loved him before we were dating. He is my best friend. He feels the same way. If ever there was a relationship that you know would lead somewhere, this is it. So we are both pretty certain that this is going to some kind of long term place eventually. I am curious to hear from people in a long term committed relationship in which only one of you have herpes. It's hard because sometimes i just don't want that condom between us. For now it has to be. But eventually if we end up serious, married wanting kids , condoms have to come off.
He is so worried about giving it to me.He feels so bad about himself sometimes. Granted, I'd rather not get it. but honestly it is so common anyway. I'm not going to leave someone i love as much as him when there is a 1 in 5 chance that the next guy has it anyway. plus there is way more scary stuff out there health wise and asshole guy wise. Right?
What can i take preemptively to reduce risk of contraction or suppress symptoms?
can anyone offer any advice if we stop condoms one day? Is there anything that can be used to reduce risk of spreading other then condoms? If he does not get out breaks often does that mean i may not as well since its the same strain?
i know how down many of you get because you have herpes. My man does too. Take it from someone who does not have it, please don't think it defines you in any way. it's just a thing. I know it can suck but it has no reflection on you as a person or your deserving love. My man is the sexiest thing I've ever seen and i would not trade him for anything!
